it is nevertheless surprising that Jesus addresses his mother here
(and in 19:26) in same terms as he does the Samaritan woman in 4:21 and Mary
Magdalena in 20:13. This form of address becomes more understandable, as does
his way of putting his refusal, “what have you to do with me?” (τί ἐμοὶ καὶ σοί) (1 Ki 17:18, etc.), in the light of
Jesus’ further response: “My hour has not yet come.” That means: Jesus does not
permit himself to be prompted to act by any human agent, even when that agent
is his own mother; he is driven by the will of the Father alone. When Jesus
then performs what is requested of him in a few minutes or a few days later,
that is no contradiction in the eyes of the Evangelist. It has nothing to do
with a temporal interval, but with the fact that Jesus will only heed the
divine call (7:13, 30). (Ernest Haenchen, John: A Commentary on
the Gospel of John [trans. Robert Walter Funk; Hermeneia—a Critical and
Historical Commentary on the Bible; Philadelphia: Fortress Press, 1984], 173)
